Reflections and Goals

Reflection and goals kind of day. I like New Years and resolutions. It's a reminder to stop and reflect on the year past, and then to re-sync priorities and goals. Last year, I co-led a Goals Workshop putting the process into clear steps. And last year, I set a goal that required every detail to be just right that I didn't think was possible, but I followed the process and hoped for the best. Today as I look back at the process... it's pretty amazing. My step ladder is filled with lots of contributing little steps...and when I look at all the little steps summed together, it was a LOT.

* Consistent friend accountability
* Greater goal, greater purpose - for the next generation of women
* Networking - Athena, WIT, SWE, reaching out and connecting with former colleagues
* Toastmasters - practice public speaking skills under stress
* LinkedIn activity - motivation, seeking opportunities
* Consistent Technical Studying
* Practice, Practice, and Practice
* Learning new skill - Python
* Interviewing as much as possible
 
I'm proud of the process - the ups and downs, disappointment, learning, and never stopping. My ideal day meditation from last year is now a reality. And I'm excited to set a path toward new goals! Wishing everyone an early Happy New Years. Set your intentions, set your steps, don't stop.

Resolution success!

409 miles completed for 2017. It would have been more if I were not sick these past 2 weeks. Either way, Resolution success. New year.. new miles.

Parental Fail : A New Resolution

This post is mostly for myself. Lately I have been having a hard time with Emilia. Actually.. probably the past year. =P This stage is called the "Terrible Twos" afterall... but really, it's not her that is terrible, but me. 2s and 3s are the age when there is an awareness that they have an individual identity and own consciousness. They exert it through challenging what we ask of them, stating their opinions and wants. This is what they are suppose to do and the journey of self understanding and confidence starts now for them. So, I am suppose to encourage them and foster that independence. Not the easiest. Whether it be a temper tantrum or constant "nos" or just not listening, I find myself with a short temper, impatient, and resorting to negative disciplining. Sigh.

Truth be told, to be a good parent has nothing to do with how cute of a lunch box I can make my kids or what I can give them. Those are the easy parts. The hard part is, at the end of the day, I feel too tired or too short-tempered or too stressed about all that needs to be done, to deal with situations and I take the easy way out.. which usually ends up with a crying, dejected little girl. Not only am I stripping her of an invaluable trait of self, but I am teaching her that conflict resolution is through yelling, time outs, and pretty much forcing my will on her. At the end of the day, more often than not, I know I can handle these situations better and that I can be a better parent. The way I deal with the situation is what needs to change. So, I am posting this because with any of the self-improvement programs, the first step is admitting the problem. Also, since I'm posting this, that means it is public and I have to follow through with what I say!

Belated New Years resolution is for me to learn how to parent. I thought parenting comes naturally, but I find I parent based on my limited knowledge and what I have experienced, not necessarily what is most beneficial for my kid and her personality. I was recommended this book by another mom who told me this book changed her life and relationship with her kid.

Easy to Love, Difficult to Disclipline by Rebecca Bailey

It's better I learn this now than when Emilia is a teenager!